Tuesday, June 30, 2015
So what can we learn from the past? First, things take time. Many have commented on the fact that this change has taken far less time than many other changes in societal rules. To think it will be implemented free of issues, to think that overnight people's understandings will change, would be very naïve. That will not be the case, most assuredly.
Second, I think we must continue to recognize that the best way to convince someone of any such change is in and through personal experience. One of the reasons a majority of folks support marriage equality is that they realized they have family and friends who are gay or lesbian. And they want for them the same considerations as the heterosexuals in their circle. If people experience same sex marriages there will be a better chance they will accept them in general.
All across the internet and beyond, one sees the phrase, "Love Wins" in reference to the Court's decision. And I suppose, judicial decisions are always about winners and losers. But Love isn't really about winning. It is about accepting the other, caring for the other, doing right by the other. And the work of loving--like love itself--never ends.
Monday, June 22, 2015
All that said, however, signing that petition is low-hanging fruit. Anybody can sign a petition. The biggest risk in doing so is receiving unsolicited e-mails and social media posts that ultimately can be stopped with a keystroke or two. And while the petition may help push South Carolina's legislators into doing the right thing, ultimately, it is a distraction. Not that it is unimportant, symbols are very important. As a pastor I deal in symbolism all the time. But to really make lasting changes we need to do far more than merely eliminate or change the symbols around us. What we really need to do is change our hearts and minds.
Let's be clear. The attack on Emanuel AME Church in Charleston was racially motivated. It was a hate crime. Let's not get distracted from that reality. Let's not lose sight of the fact that it is far from the first such attack in the history of the Black church. Time and again, innocents have died and buildings have been burned. Not because somebody was mentally ill. Rather, because somebody was filled with hatred.
The folks at Mother Emanuel know that better than I ever will, I suspect. But they also know that the only way to combat hate is with love and forgiveness, and their witness has been amazing! Mind you, forgiveness does not mean saying, "What you did was OK." It doesn't mean saying, "Don't worry about it!" Rather, forgiveness means letting go of one's need for revenge. Don't misunderstand, that doesn't mean there are no consequences to be paid by the perpetrator. There are.
The question now, however, is what are we going to do besides signing a petition. How are we as individuals, as religious congregations and as a nation, going to bring about real change in the way we think and feel about race? Yes, we need, in some cases, to clean up our language, and stop sharing racist jokes. Yes, we need to take down the flags. But we also need to take a deep, long look at the ways we systemically and institutionally perpetuate racism. And more than that, we need to look deep in our hearts and, with the help of God, root out all that prevents us from living lives of love and forgiveness. And what better symbol of that than the steeple of Mother Emanuel Church in Charleston?
(Photo: The steeple of Emanuel African Methodist Episcopal Church, taken by Rebecca Travis)
Monday, June 15, 2015
Most folks--just like in the adult world--just groused about it. But some of us decided to take on the school board and attend their open session. It we would a show of solidarity around the issue. We didn't really consider if any one would actually address the board during the public comment period, but that night, rather on the spur of the moment, I did. I went to the mike, voiced my concern, and then used an analogy to explain my position. "Diamonds in the rough," I said, "are still diamonds. Clothes don't make the man or the woman or the boy or the girl. What determines how a student acts, thinks, works, is deeper than clothing." My fellow students applauded--I don't remember how the board reacted--I was too nervous to look at their faces! I guess I didn't make that much of an impression though--for in the end, they banned jeans.
I've been thinking about that as I've followed with interest the case of Caroline Boland, a young woman here in Lee County who was initially stripped of her office as Historian for the District Chapter of the National Honor Society because she wore a dress that violated the dress code. She is, obviously, an excellent student, as well as an accomplished athlete (she plays basketball)--and this was her first "offense"--somewhat unwitting, it appears. Whatever the case, the Superintendent of Schools finally overturned the decision.
That's good, but still . . . . should it even have been an issue? As an adult, I have a bit more patience with the idea of dress codes than I did as a high school student, but still, my position remains basically the same. What really matters is what's on the inside, not the clothes one wears. And seems to be just the kind of student that we want to--need to--applaud and hold up as a role model for others. This kid's a real gem--a diamond--let's let her sparkle!
Tuesday, June 9, 2015
Some as young as two or three, others in their twenties and thirties. Mostly children, though, with a few adults thrown in for good measure.
All told, there were sixty-three different numbers. They ranged in style from classical ballet to hip-hop--so the accompanying music ranged from Tchaikovsky to . . . . well, your guess is as good as mine. Maybe better!
Some dancers were part of one or two numbers, while others showed up multiple times. Some of the older dancers, not the adults, the older kids, had solos. Most did not. Some of the choreography was actually quite original, and three or four numbers verged on stunning. One in particular, based loosely on the themes in the holocaust novel The Boy in Striped Pajamas, was very moving. And very surprising. One does not usually think of such a serious piece being part of a kids' dance recital.
Most of the performers--some sixty or so in total--were girls and young women. As one would expect. But about eight or nine of them were boys. I must say, I have the same kind of respect for boys who take dance lessons as I do for girls who play Little League baseball. And even more than that, I have a real; appreciation for their parents. Not all moms and dads are supportive of their children when they want to take up an activity that crosses traditional gender expectations!
As I watched the various news reports this weekend and considered the journey Bruce, now Caitlyn, Jenner has undertaken, I couldn't help but think of those dance recital boys. When, I wonder, will we get over our preconceived ideas about gender? Clearly, it still matters--gender that is. But how, and why? What does it mean to be male? What does it mean to be female? Have we moved beyond biology? So many questions!
I guess, for me, it comes down to this: what does it mean to be human? Ultimately, that is the real question. And how do we nurture girls and boys, gay, straight, bisexual or transgendered, as they grow into adulthood? Letting them dance if they want to, letting them slide into home plate if that's their desire, and supporting them in their efforts, like the hundreds of family members who filled the auditorium at the dance recital--it's not all of it, but it certainly is a start!
Tuesday, June 2, 2015
My stack at home is largely fiction. Novels I have been given (or occasionally have purchased for myself) waiting for the mood to strike. Which doesn't mean I don't read much fiction. I do. Lots of it. Most of those books checked out from the Sanibel Library or the Lakes Regional Library in Fort Myers are novels. I have three of them at home right now. Sara Gruen's latest, At Water's Edge, Jodi Picoult's most recent volume, Leaving Time and a real gem that I've almost finished, Marilynne Robinson's Lila. (Robinson is such a fine writer!)
Here at work I have three stacks. The books are mostly ones that have been given to me. Some have been written by parishioners or their offspring. I've got one by Robert Dornberg that I keep intending to get to called A Nation of Sheep. He's a lovely fellow, and a thoughtful human being. I may not agree with some of what he has to say, but I suspect it will be very well thought out. I've got one by the son of parishioners, Dan Maurer, called Far Away. Dan's a good writer--I've read one of his other books. I keep stalling though on this one as it's about human trafficking. I suspect it will be tough sledding.
The stacks also include a variety of things I want to read for professional reasons. Parker Palmer's healing the Heart of Democracy, for instance. I've dipped into it a bit, and as usual, Palmer is extremely trenchant. "When we hold our suffering in a way that opens us to greater compassion," he writes at one point, "heartbreak becomes a source of healing, deepening out empathy . . . ." (22)
Good stuff! But wait, there's more! Aging Well, by George Vaillant, The (Un)common Good by Jim Wallis, and the list goes on!
And then there is the stack for my upcoming sabbatical. Books related to my work on the abolition movement. I'll be focusing especially on John Quincy Adams and his role in the anti-slavery movement, so Harlow Unger's biography of Adams is on the pile. But so is Frederick Douglas' autobiography.
One of the greatest pleasures in life, for me, is reading. In fact, I can't imagine life without books. And maybe that's why I have so many stacked up waiting to be read. Maybe subconsciously I believe that as long as I've got at least one more book to read, I'll live to see another day. Instead of the fountain of youth, I've got a bookcase of youth.